You want me to do what?

I am in the middle of a dilemma. I need some feedback. On Saturday a strange thing happened. Well to me it's strange. Droopy's kid Whinis, came over and asked to use my bathroom. The way our houses are situated, he can walk out his front door, and walk through Enabler's backyard to my front porch. It's not too far a walk, maybe 2 minutes if you walk slow and take your time picking your footsteps. Goof was getting in the truck to head out to Home Depot. He sees Whinis walking towards the house, about halfway between his house and mine. The kid asks him if he could use our bathroom. He's gotta take a dump. Goof says no, and leaves. He calls me to tell me about this interaction. While he's telling me this, the kid comes up and knocks on my door! I go upstairs and talk to Goof a bit and wait for him to leave. He doesn't leave! It has now been about 5 minutes that we have been on the phone. The kid asks me if he can use my toilets. I tell him no, I got bleach in the bowls. He stands at my door for a another minute before he heads home.

Now please note that my downstairs powder room is out of commission. Goof has peeled off all the wall paper, but needs to texture and paint the walls. There is wall paper bits still on the floor and the sink is full of his tools. The bathrooms upstairs are fine, but dirty. Also the bedrooms all need to be straightened up.

I get a phone call from his mother, bitching me out because her kid had to take a dump and I wouldn't let him in and that was wrong. Hello, your child was halfway between our houses, could he physically not turn around and go home? Most people don't want to use someone else's toilet, but prefer the privacy of their own. Oh he was playing with my kid and Big Red, so the urge came on, and he's got colon issues because he ate play doh as a toddler, and it got impacted and he couldn't shit for a month without pain. So why does this mean I have you let you use my toilet again? So he got shit stains in his underwear. This is not uncommon for males. Get him pull ups and make him wear those! Remind him to use his own toilet before going out to play. He was not playing with my son, Stinky was in the backyard, not in the house.

Honestly, Stinky finds the kid annoying. He's 8. They don't have the same things in common, plus 8 year olds know how to bother older kids. She starts throwing about how smart he is, and his teachers talk to him as an adult, and she does too. Yea, she knows he annoys people. If she is aware of it, then realize he annoys my kid! Stinky doesn't want to play with him. He tried to come into the house, and Stinky told him no. Said only one kid at a time in the house. I told Stinky, the rule was 2 kids in the house, one kid in his room. Plus his room was off limits because it was messy and he needed to clean it. So now Whinis thinks he's not welcome in the house. Which in turn led Droopy to tell me that if her kid is not welcome, then the adults are not welcome either. Whatever. Too much drama, too much over involvement in the 8 year olds life.

I told her that who the kids play with is not my concern, if they don't get along that's okay. I don't make an issue of the adults, but if she feels that way, then so be it. The issue is her child coming to the house to use the bathroom before he tries to play with my kid. It's not how I was raised. It's not how Goof was raised. I asked her point blank, does she expect me to open the door, when he shows up so he can use my bathroom? She said she would have no problems if my son came up to her door and asked to use the bathroom. I told her, my kid would shoot himself first before doing that. It is unacceptable for him to do that. It is against our upbringing. I can adapt to many things, but this is not one of them. If the kid was in my house playing, I can see him using the bathroom, but he wasn't playing in my house. If he's playing in the backyard, he can certainly run home and use the toilet, versus standing around for 5 minutes thinking about using the toilet and coming up to me. The last time he did this, I had a migraine. Goof had to tell the kid no way, not when my wife is already willing to kill me for making noise.

I told Goof about my phone conversation with her, and that no real resolution was reached. He said leave the discussion alone, and if it happens again, turn him away, and if she calls to bitch, tell her that I had already expressed my feelings about it and she should be aware it's how I was raised, and I don't find it acceptable. So now we wait. I have no idea what's gonna happen next. It's up to her to realize I am not going to back down on this issue. I am curious about whether or not the 3 family Thanksgiving is happening or not. Since I was already making everything it doesn't change a thing for me. Just the amount will be less. She had offered to buy the turkey, so we'll see. This Sunday if she has not spoken about it. I will buy my own turkey and consider it just the 3 of us.

While I do want to get along with my neighbors, I have to take a stand on certain issues. This relates to how I was raised. It seems like with Goof and my cook friend in CA, they were raised the same way. Am, I to believe it's a CA thing against children coming to the house to use the bathroom, before playing? No. I know for certain that a former coworker here, had told me a similar tale of a neighbor child coming up to her door asking to use her bathroom. She said no and closed the door. She's a black woman, well educated, same with her husband. Granted they aren't GA natives, I believe she's from Ohio. Hell Droopy isn't a GA native. She's supposedly been all over the world. I know if I asked my friend the Queen mother, she would voice the same opinion as me, and her daughter would be totally disgusted. Well Monkey girl doesn't want kids, so that would turn her off even more against kids, and she would use that as fodder for her argument against having children with her boyfriend. Hmm, I need to give her this ammunition.

So again I ask you, what would you do?