pre teen boys suck

Lately it's been stressful in this strange little household. Stinky still has to deal with Fred, and we've been trying to remind him, not to respond to this shit head. Stinky did get in trouble though and has lost electronic privileges for 2 weeks. I had emailed his teachers on Monday to make sure all his work was made up and if he had left any work out. On top of finding out what he didn't do, he had gotten into an altercation. Seems they were in PE and one kid did something to another then it became a wrestling-choke match, and Stinky jumped in to help his friend, which in turn got him slightly hurt, which then turned to Stinky shoving the kid and kneeing him in the midsection. So he ended up with a day of in school suspension. Obviously we weren't pleased with any of this.

Now he has had several lectures, and threats of more punishment, he's still rather surly, but he says he gets why we are doing this. Who knows if he truly does or if he's placating us. There has been a lot of talk of disappointment, and frustration for us as parents. How are we to support and defend him, if he gets a reputation for fighting or not completing his assignments? Constantly reminding him, we can not take action against true injustice done to him, if the teachers think the worst of him.

I really feel that I am at wit's end with him. How can I get it through to him? He must learn and realize this for himself, and it's such a hard battle to fight. I hate that Fred is harassing Stinky. The kid needs to get any attention from Stinky. I want to go over to his grandmother and tell her, "You suck as a parental figure. Your grandson needs intense counseling and you need some serious parenting classes. Obviously this would not work. She is the type of person that talks the good talk, but in the end, it comes to her level of comfort and laziness. Hence the dogs loose on her front yard, shitting all over the place and her in the house. She doesn't want her faults pointed out. Hey grow as a person, and make changes in your life already.